We’re all familiar with some individuals who appear to find life very easy, and enjoy one victory after another. On the other hand, we know others who never quite make it, and always have an answer why things haven’t worked out. Victors and victims make up the world, and attitude is very often the one key factor that makes the difference.
It’s essential when working on a weight loss program to adopt the habits of the victor to accomplish the right outcome. Feebly attempting a weight-loss plan without taking responsibility for the outcome will put you in the ‘victim’ camp. And yet for a victor it’s all in the bag from the beginning.
Visualise the finale of a tennis championship, where the player’s attitudes are as follows: The first says “It’s my final chance – I’ll give it what I can,” but the second says “It is my Destiny to WIN.” Guess who’ll win the tournament?
‘Oar’ can be used to describe a victor who paddles his way to the winning post. O is for ownership, A is for accountability and R is for responsibility. We can define the victim by the word BED (Blame, Excuses and Denial) – a person who stays in bed and gives up.
The victor ‘owns’ his own tasks, and doesn’t hope for someone else to take the lead. He’s liable for his actions, and so he takes account of them (seeing things through by dealing with problems not making problems). He’s responsible for the results of his actions, and so doesn’t take excuses from himself.
The victim can always come up with a reason for not accomplishing something, and it’s hardly ever to do with him. Mistakes or short-comings are always transferred on to a third party. Justifications are always made for why he couldn’t perform well – but inevitably he’s the only one who’s convinced! The pattern of blaming others and making excuses leads to an existence of absolute denial. The victim is then sure beyond doubt that he can do nothing about his lot.
A person about to start a new slimming program should stack the odds of success in their favour by giving themselves a mental check-over. Anyone who’s a fully paid up member of the victim society will have to address their issues before they start, to truly embrace the concept of losing weight.
Continual positive repetition will change a victim’s attitude to that of a victor. Pay attention to what you’re saying to yourself – if you sound like a victim, then stop dead! Instead, mentally verbalise why you can be successful. Nobody else is superior to you – some have just conquered their victimisation thinking and achieved their success.
We don’t start out as victors, we learn the habits of victors to accomplish our goals. In order to maintain successful weight management, we first have to maintain a successful attitude.